Pregnancy through MY lens
My own journey’s of pregnancy -
First pregnancy - The choice of my primary care giver -
For me pregnancy is a natural occurring facet of life. One that is powerful and offers so many hidden gems, let alone the baby at the end. Through my own first pregnancy pondering I identified the sort of care that would support me best. I identified that each and every time I considered knowing ‘the answer’ from outside myself, it always left me feeling more stressed, so I chose not to know. I chose to do pregnancy more like my mother and grandmothers did, with a less is more attitude. With a largely innate trust in my own body and spirit, and how it had navigated me through life thus far, I leant in. I trusted it more than ever.
At the beginning of my first pregnancy I had decided to utilise the support of a private midwife to support me to have a home birth. I called a few that stated they were located around my area via a google search. This made me feel depleted as Ina May Gaskins questions for a pending midwife seemed to fall on deaf ears. I asked a colleague and she pointed me in the direction of a group of private practicing Midwives. This made me feel safe, and after being passed along to a travelling midwife I was sold. All of my appointments would be in the comfort of my own home at times that suited me.
During our initial home visit my midwife laid down the ground rules of home birth in Australia. My take was this - essentially the birth was not covered by insurance due to the governments mistrust of private midwives and home birth (here is a peer reviewed study on homebirth in NSW, Australia)., that she would be my primary care provider from now (11 weeks gestation) until 6 weeks postpartum, and - I would be about $5000 out of pocket.
I also wanted to know more about her experience in why home birthing women transferred to the hospital. Of the five women, the main reason was that the women asked to go for pain management and one woman had decided she didn’t want to go after the midwife had suggested she should and she stayed at home to deliver a healthy baby.
So my midwife was chosen by a spot of luck, and a feeling that felt right for me. I had a trusting care person that would be there for me from the beginning and throughout my postpartum. The journey with her was wonderful, after each 2-3 hour consultation I felt more and more empowered about my choice to birth in the safety of my home and she encouraged me to listen to what I needed.
Other support persons -
Exercise - EP/PT - I trained 1-2x weekly throughout my first pregnancy up until 38 weeks with pregnancy specific trainers. I felt strong and capable.
Chiropractic care - I would see my chiropractor monthly throughout my pregnancy.
Acupuncture - I had acupuncture fortnightly through out my pregnancy and weekly leading in to birth. A space and time to just rest and land into the meditative states needed to awaken lessons that lay deep.
Massage - I received 4 massages through out
Support - At the birth of my baby I had my partner and my brother, who worked to hold me physically through every surge. My mum was there to run to the shops.
Second pregnancy - The choice of my support people
This time around I had felt the nudges of all things wholistic. After we had just traversed the. unravellings of lockdowns and the fear related to the pandemic that was “covid 19”. I knew I couldn’t be connected to anything that didn’t completely trust in my ability to birth.
I chose to travel down uncharted waters. With complete trust and faith. My good friend had just completed her birth keeping studies and I asked if she would join me. My focus was on feeling in. Some days I needed support physically so I would lean towards my Chiro/osteo or reflexologist. Other days I spent time with trusted friends or counsellors.
The greatest support on this pregnancy journey were the community of women I wrapped myself up in.
I knew I had everything I needed from within and I had trust that I could call upon the extra helping hands when I needed.
Third pregnancy - Supports
This third pregnancy, created the ripple and shift. I now moved month by month through my own journey. I became quieter in moments and busy and driven in others. I was catapulted into a new version of myself.
As always I leant more deeply inwards, focusing on unveiling the voices and patterns within. In a hope to clear space for them to not have to trudge so deeply.
My main landing place was with Matt aka. The Wizard, but I also found a lot of support in the women’s circles I curated or attended. Life was mystical and pregnancy was the guiding force. The community I had summoned was powerful and strong. Able and willing to hold me in my early postpartum like the goddess of life herself.